As I’ve mentioned before, I work in a large public library. The operative word here is Public, as in not private. Also meaning that when you use the computers everyone can see what you’re doing whether they want to or not.
It’s become apparent to me that many people use the library computers for online dating activities. Now let me be the first to say that I am intrigued by this whole phenomenon, and know several people who have met and married their soul mate thanks to online dating sites. Unfortunately, one must be very careful – you never know who you’re talking to and therein lies the problem. I suspect that in many cases if you could actually see who you were chatting with, you’d stop.
I hesitate to go into detail and be criticized for judging by appearances, but some of these hopeful swains have multiple red flags waving around their heads. Here are four examples:
1.Very large and flashy ring on wedding finger.
2. Extreme hygiene issues.
3. Apparent emotional, or substance abuse problems.
4. Appear to be much older than the cute young things whose faces appear on the screen. (Remember I said these are public computers, and everyone can see.) Sigh.
In conclusion I just want say, ladies, please be careful. Don’t fall too hard for a guy you’ve never seen and may know nothing about. When and if you meet them, make sure you meet in a safe place. Also, make sure they have friends and family that they’re willing Introduce you to. Because there’s a downside to online dating – some of these potential suitors may be misrepresenting themselves, either physically, socially, or in every way it’s possible to do so.
But now that I’ve said this, something occurs to me. Maybe the cute young thing on the computer screen is also misrepresenting herself. Hmmm. I guess it works both ways.